How To Pick Up Women

Are you struggling when it comes to finding, meeting, and picking up women? If so, here are some guidelines to help you succeed in finding the women of your dreams!

Do you want to go out and pick up a woman tonight, but have no clue where to start?

Many guys get lots of bad advice about picking up women from their friends and family who know even LESS about how to get a girl than they do. Even so-called "Dating experts" that you see on TV usually don't know what they're talking about because they have to cater to the feminist media! (And truth be told, the mainstream media looks down on any tactic that could help guys get laid!)

Understand: Learning how to pick up women is not a politically-correct topic!

You want some practical advice that can really work, that you can start to use right away. Fortunately, you found this article. So let's get started!

Let me first tell you what you DON'T need to pick up women.

You DON'T need to look like a "male model."

This is a huge mistake that almost all men make. Little do they realize that close to 85% of women place more importance on how a man makes them FEEL as opposed to how he actually LOOKS.

So if you don't think you're a very attractive guy, don't worry! There's still hope for you.

Second, you DON'T have to spend a lot of money or drive an expensive car!

Many of the best ladies men I know never spend more than $30 on a date - heck, some of them don't even own a car! (And if they do, it usually isn't a very nice one!)

Most women don't care how much money you make or spend on them - IF they actually like you! And a big part of picking up women is to get them to like you, isn't that right?

Finally, you DON'T have to be famous, be a certain type of ethnicity or nationality, or anything else you can think of.

Understand: Personality trumps every other obstacle you think you have to getting a girl to like you!

When you know the right way to talk to women, nothing else matters.

Unless you're currently a master pickup artist, you may not have a whole lot of success with women right away when using these tactics - after all, it takes time to practice and learn from your experiences. But if you actually apply what you've learned, you'll soon find your success with women will skyrocket!

In order to learn the quickest, you'll want to go out as often as you can - particularly when you're first starting. You don't have to go to nightclubs or other high-pressure environments to meet women, but they are great "practice grounds" because there are SO MANY women there to meet and talk to.

No matter what - if you want to get better, you need to devote some time every day to go out and pick up women. The more you do it, the better you'll get!

You probably won't have much success at first when you start going to clubs, but other people will actually start notice a change in you as your confidence goes up. Every success and failure in nightclubs will also helps to reinforce the things you need to do when you're picking up women, and the things you need to avoid.

Remember: The more experience you have, the easier it'll be.

The most important thing to remember about going out to pick up women is to gain experience!

When you're going out to pick up women and gain experience, it's important to look as good as you possibly can!

(Notice I didn't say "good looking." I said "look good." There's a difference. You can't control what you look like, but you CAN control your appearance - your hair, your tan, your clothes, etc.)

Take the time to dress as nice as you can. Find clothes that look good on you and tailor them to fit. If you're not into fashion and don't know where to start, ask a female friend who's very fashion conscious to help you find the right types of clothes.

Keep in mind - you don't NEED to dress nicely to meet women, but it will make it much easier on yourself if you do! Not only that, but the better you look, the more confident you'll feel.

Be on the lookout for opportunities to do pickup. You can find attractive women just about anywhere. And if you notice that she's given you the eye, it would almost be a sin not to start talking to her!

Remember - ever good pickup follows a very simple structure. This means there's a series of steps to picking up women you can actually repeat time and time again and get the same results.

The structure is:

Find the girl.

Meet her.

Talk and Gain Rapport.

Build Attraction.

That's it! Four simple steps. You'll find that if you're able to effectively meet women and gain rapport with them, you can build attraction quite easily.

How To Keep The Girl By Your Side

When you become successful with women, there is going to come a time when a special girl comes along that you would like to keep. For many men, that's the end game - the reason why we're doing this in the first place - not so that they can sleep with a new hottie every day, but so they will be able to find a girl that has something which makes her unique and well suited for them in particular.

With that, you need to know, as detailed as possible, what you are looking for in regards to this keeper. That way you can spot them.

Typically, this doesn't have anything to do with physical traits. Usually, you're already interested in her because you're physically attracted. The "Keeper" qualities are typically personality traits that you find appealing.

Things like - is she funny? Smart? Does she make you feel good? Are the two of you sexually compatible? Do you share the same beliefs and goals?

When you know exactly what you're looking for in an ideal mate, you'll be able to spot her when she comes along, so you're going to want to have some type of list that let's you know what you're looking for.

When you find a girl that you especially like, close to your ideal (very rarely, if ever, will you find a girl that meets ALL of your criteria), you should play a slightly different game than when you are when you're just trying to get a girl into bed.

If you sleep with this girl immediately, she is going to suspect that you are looking more for adventure and excitement than for stability, trust, and a longer relationship.

And for some people, establishing a relationship after a one night-stand can be very hard. Why is this? Because if you slept together the first night you met, even if you do get into some kind of relationship, as soon as she goes out with her friends or you go out with your friends, the issue of trust is going to rear its ugly head.

How can she trust that you are not going to cheat on her? How can you trust her that she won't cheat on you? So trust is going to be very difficult to establish fully, and trust is a crucial thing in long term relationships!

So I'm going to give you some advice about this problem. When you meet a girl you want to keep, a girl that you want for a relationship, don't sleep with her that same night. Instead, just kiss her, or take her phone number after you have built rapport with her and then meet her some other day.

In fact, it is still possible to build a relationship when you have sex the first night you meet. But the key is to make sure you don't let yourself go at her like an animal. Instead, be more attentive, more low-energy, have more love making than just pure crazy sex.

Really push the intimacy. Cuddle more, and make sure to keep your eye contact longer while having sex. It's a bonus if you can give her a lot of orgasms. The key is to really give her great pleasure while she's around you. It'll improve the chance she'll return, and also let her know that you care for her, and for how she feels.

Another thing to be aware of if you're taking it slow - do not engage in straight intercourse the first time you're with her. Instead, focus on other aspects of lovemaking, like foreplay, heavy petting, and other techniques. Holding off on the full-on act of sex will show her that you're different from the others, and you want it to be something special.

When it comes to long term, healthy relationships, sex is the first thing that must be mastered. Having a healthy sex life will make the relationship a strong one.

After that comes the harder aspects - trust, comfort, and communication.

It's important that you trust and feel comfortable around your partner. In fact, these two things usually go hand-in-hand. The more you trust someone, the more comfortable you are around them, and vice versa.

Trust comes from being honest with your partner, and comfort comes from demonstrating understanding and compassion.

But no amount of sex, trust, or comfort is going to happen without communication. This is the most important factor in keeping a girl for the long term.

Good communication is critical, because communication is what creates intimacy between two people. Being able to share one's hopes, dreams, fears, insecurities, bad days, and good days - this all goes towards creating strong bonds that last a lifetime.

When it comes to communication, remember one thing: it's about both of you. Not just your emotions, desires, and thoughts. It's about hers too, and if you neglect her, you'll find the emotional connection you've built will undoubtedly fade. If she strays after that, I wouldn't be surprised.

Just be aware of what she is trying to communicate to you. Be open to it. If you do, keeping her around shouldn't be too hard.