Unless you're extremely experienced with women, one of the most difficult things for men to pull off is the end-of-the-date kiss. If you're just starting out (or getting back into) the dating scene, knowing when to make your move can be a difficult task.
Understand that knowing if and when a woman is ready to be kissed comes down to one thing - observation.
The clues that will signal you to proceed will come from the girl you are with, so you need to be aware of the woman's behaviors and body language.
Here is what to look for:
1. Check your gut feeling on how the date has gone. If she has clearly not enjoyed herself and does not appear into you, a kiss is not in the cards. If the attraction is not already there, she will not be head over heels for you if you suddenly plant one on her.
2. If you're not quite sure about whether or not she's attracted to you -- for example if you can't really tell if her reluctance to kiss is due to shyness (but she likes you) or plain old disinterest -- then you need more data. Subtly try to initiate some physical contact.
3. Stand a little closer to her and see if she backs up or allows you into her personal zone. Casually initiate touching her by putting your arm around her waist. If she hugs up on you a little, that's a great sign! If she cringes, she's probably not comfortable enough with you to kiss.
4. Make direct eye contact, smile, and look at her reaction. Does she smile back and seem to enjoy looking at you? Does she appear uncomfortable and looks away, refusing to hold eye contact? If she goes along with what you're doing, she's in rapport with you. If she's not, then you haven't built up a strong enough connection yet.
The point I'm trying to hammer home here is this: you CAN figure out her emotional state by putting her into situations where she can't avoid sharing some body language signals about her feelings -- either negative or positive.
Once you've analyzed the situation and you think it's okay to kiss her, then square up to her and just kiss her. Don't try and sneak it in. Do everything deliberately. Don't say anything unless it is unusually profound or funny.
Don't forget - confidence is the key factor here! Even if you're insanely nervous about kissing her, try and appear to be as confident as you possibly can. A meek, hesitant kiss is a big turn off. You need to show her exactly what your intentions are when you go to kiss her!
Whatever you do, NEVER ASK a woman if you can kiss her! That ruins the mood and magic of the moment. Pay attention to her body language and see if you're getting the green lights to make your move. If you're not getting the right signals, don't push it! Back off, because you have to create more comfort with her before you can proceed.
If you make your move at the appropriate time, and do it assertively yet smoothly, then you'll score some big points. Girls rate that first kiss as an important indicator of your potential as a possible boyfriend. Not only is that kiss indicative of your confidence and manliness, it is also a precursor to a woman knowing if you'll be a good match or not!
2012年8月27日星期一
2012年8月25日星期六
6 Tips to Follow to Win Your Ex Back
Life can be hectic when you are in the midst of a breakup. However, your life doesn't have to feel like or looks like a wreck to win back your ex. In fact, by following six simple guidelines, you can get past the heartbreak and move on with your life. If fail to contemplate these guidelines, winning back your ex will be very hard. They are:
Tip 1 - Don't Be Aggressive
One of the most important things you should know is not to be aggressive when you are attempting to get back together with your ex. Instead, let your ex have the space he or she needs so they can work through their own emotions. When trying to win your ex back please do not pressure them into giving you another chance, you do more harm than good. When you are constantly seeing one another, you can't move past the hurt that you both feel. This leads to increase anxiety and more anger.
Tip 2 - Use Your Pain
It's natural to feel upset about the breakup. You wouldn't be human if you didn't feel the hurt. However, this pain should never control what you do and how you go about doing things. Instead, use your pain to keep you moving forward. Motivate yourself by figuring out what went wrong in the relationship.
Tip 3 - Don't Try Changing Your Ex
Many people believe that making a relationship works means to fix/change things about their ex. This isn't true. The only person who can change your ex is your ex. Just like you can only change things about yourself. It's up to you to fix your own problems. If you want your ex back, only you can win them back. Not anyone else can win them back for you.
Tip 4 – Don't Believe Everything You See
If you are out on the town with your friends, don't be too shocked if you see your ex out with someone else. The chances of the relationship being a rebound are great. You should also do a rebound relationship yourself to help you move things along. Just because your ex is seeing other people do not mean that you don't have another chance to win them back. There is always a chance when it comes to love and relationships.
Tip 5 – Hanging on When It's Final
Learn to know when to move on. If you know the relationship isn't meant for a second chance but you can't help but feel that you need to stay in your ex's life, you may be considered a stalker. This is more so, if your presence is not wanted. Make sure you recognize that the relationship failed and that you have moved on with your life as they have done so for themselves.
Tip 6 – Recognize and Fix the Relationship Problems
Make sure that you fix the problems that plagued your relationship the first time around. If you try to get back together without fixing them, the relationship will be doomed from the start. You both do not want the same mistakes to rear their ugly heads so make sure you work them out before making a second go around of the relationship. If things return back to the way they were before, there's a good chance the relationship will fail again.
You won't be able to win them back if you stay depressed and hope your ex will return. Try following these 6 tips and guidelines it does help win your ex back as well as to move on with your life.
Tip 1 - Don't Be Aggressive
One of the most important things you should know is not to be aggressive when you are attempting to get back together with your ex. Instead, let your ex have the space he or she needs so they can work through their own emotions. When trying to win your ex back please do not pressure them into giving you another chance, you do more harm than good. When you are constantly seeing one another, you can't move past the hurt that you both feel. This leads to increase anxiety and more anger.
Tip 2 - Use Your Pain
It's natural to feel upset about the breakup. You wouldn't be human if you didn't feel the hurt. However, this pain should never control what you do and how you go about doing things. Instead, use your pain to keep you moving forward. Motivate yourself by figuring out what went wrong in the relationship.
Tip 3 - Don't Try Changing Your Ex
Many people believe that making a relationship works means to fix/change things about their ex. This isn't true. The only person who can change your ex is your ex. Just like you can only change things about yourself. It's up to you to fix your own problems. If you want your ex back, only you can win them back. Not anyone else can win them back for you.
Tip 4 – Don't Believe Everything You See
If you are out on the town with your friends, don't be too shocked if you see your ex out with someone else. The chances of the relationship being a rebound are great. You should also do a rebound relationship yourself to help you move things along. Just because your ex is seeing other people do not mean that you don't have another chance to win them back. There is always a chance when it comes to love and relationships.
Tip 5 – Hanging on When It's Final
Learn to know when to move on. If you know the relationship isn't meant for a second chance but you can't help but feel that you need to stay in your ex's life, you may be considered a stalker. This is more so, if your presence is not wanted. Make sure you recognize that the relationship failed and that you have moved on with your life as they have done so for themselves.
Tip 6 – Recognize and Fix the Relationship Problems
Make sure that you fix the problems that plagued your relationship the first time around. If you try to get back together without fixing them, the relationship will be doomed from the start. You both do not want the same mistakes to rear their ugly heads so make sure you work them out before making a second go around of the relationship. If things return back to the way they were before, there's a good chance the relationship will fail again.
You won't be able to win them back if you stay depressed and hope your ex will return. Try following these 6 tips and guidelines it does help win your ex back as well as to move on with your life.
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