The Body Language Of Flirting, Part 8

In the previous article, the topic was touch and it's importance to your flirting success. In this article, the last of the series, I'll go over how your vocal signals are also an integral part of non verbal flirting too.

You might be asking yourself how this could be non verbal? It relates to the voice right? Well, in a sense, but it has to do with your INFLECTION, and not the actual words spoken!

The distinction is important. Much of your first impression is based on HOW you say something, versus a small amount of it being based on WHAT you say. It's drastically more important.

With that regard, it's important to be able to read her vocal signals too. It's quite possibly the stronger interest indicator we have, yet most people disregard this.

Let's look at this - take a simple word, like "hello". Now think of the different ways to say "hello", in terms of inflection. You can say it in a manner of surprise, if you weren't expecting to see that person wherever you are.

More importantly, you can say it in a manner that indicates interest. If you say hello in a drawn out manner, with a rising intonation at the end, think about what it says. Try it.

It can show you are interested. Now think about this. It will also show you if SHE is interested. She might say it in a flat, monotone voice. That's not good. But if she smiles brightly and says hello, it generally is a positive thing.

Remember, always look for other signs to gauge this against. She might have a monotone voice or be somewhat of an unemotional person, so her intonation will come across as flat. She might also have a vibrant personality, and be overly friendly, so her response might not be what it seems. The best method of judging this is by watching how she reacts to others.

How does intonation work? It's all about reading between the lines - it will become apparent. Hello can have several meanings - the first is "wow, you are gorgeous", and on down the line to "go away and stay away." If you pay attention, you'll catch my drift.

Get a friend, and practice catching the meanings behind the word "yeah". Try to make it mean as many things as possible. At the same time, see how fast you can pick up the inflections.

Also take the time to listen to your own voice. Are you monotone? Soft spoken? Work on that - make it lively. Try playing with the pace, pitch, and tone. If you have problems in this area, it will give you instant results in regards to people seeing your positively.

Your volume is important too. I you are too quiet, you will come across as a bit submissive and worse, frustrating to the listener, who might have to ask you to speak up.

But be sure to temper it. I'm sure you've dealt with a very loud person who had a pitch that was everywhere. They are obnoxious, and far worse than being monotone.

The idea is to balance all the parts correctly. This takes a bit of effort, but it is well worth it.

Another key element to remember is the use of intonation to allow a turn change. This is an important verbal cue that is forgotten more often than not.

If there is a rise or fall in the intonation by the other person, it is generally used to indicate that the person is done speaking and wishes the other person to speak.

Conversely, if you do the same, she might be expecting that you have finished speaking, and it is her turn.

Not heeding these signals can lead to bumpy conversations, even irritating enough to end them.

Again, with this, practice! Hold conversations with friends, and watch the conversations of others with an eye towards these cues.

You'll need to practice, but in time your voice will become a part of your success!

This concludes my series on nonverbal flirting. Next up, I'll continue the series on flirting by writing about the verbal part of it! After that, I'll show you how to put all the pieces together!

Adult Dating Online - Handy Tips Any Woman Should Know

These days more and more people are looking for no-strings attached relationships, and this is the very reason why adult dating sites have become more popular over the years. Previously one would prowl bars and pubs for prospective no-strings-attached dates for a good night out, but with the advent of the internet, this particular method is slowly being phased out amongst the tech-savvy.

After all, why would anyone need to look in a bar for someone to have a good time with when you can do it right from home? However, apart from the convenience, there is also the “drunk” factor. Most often by the time you do find your date for the night you’d be too drunk to remember anything. Yet another thing to consider is the fact that the person you’ve just met might have the wrong idea about what constitutes a fun night for you. By the time you’re back at his home or hotel room it might just be a little too late.

This is why adult online dating sites have become the best alternative for consenting adults looking for no-strings attached relationships. Right from the get-go, everyone has a clear idea of what they’re looking for. With online dating sites, you won’t end up too drunk to remember or enjoy your night out (unless of course you choose to drink when you hook up anyway). Also, your judgment wouldn’t be clouded by severe inebriation, so you will still be able to make a conscious decision to stop and back out before things happen. This is just one of the reasons why such adult online dating sites are the safer avenue for such endeavors. Many people seem to have the opinion that such sites aren’t safe, but it is definitely much safer than meeting a total stranger at a bar who might turn out to be someone you might not have expected them to be.

Here are a few handy tips for women out there who might be looking for a no-strings-attached date for those lonely nights.

The first thing of course is to select your choice of adult online dating site. Obviously, you’ll want to pick a popular one, as it would be an indication of the level of service, and would provide you with a wide variety of choices to choose from with regards to your no-strings-attached date. You can refer to online reviews of such sites to help you make a decision on which site you should be a member of.

Having decided on a site, you can then create a profile of yourself. Usually such sites will offer you a free trial upon joining, and you would be able to create a profile then. One tip to remember is that for such sites your profile will have to be very appealing in order for you to achieve success in finding your choice of dates. Upload a provocatively attractive picture of yourself, write an intriguing profile that will leave prospective dates wanting to know more. You need to have an edge to beat the competition on such sites, so think outside of the box than when you generally would with a usual dating or social networking site.

A webcam is definitely handy to have, as webcam chatrooms play a significant part in adult online dating sites. It isn’t only for the viewing pleasure of your prospective date, but it would also help with your safety as well, as you would be able to see just who you’re dealing with before you decide to hook up.

When you do meet with your date (offline, that is), remember that you’re meeting them for the first time. Clear the air on what you both want and check to see if you’re both on the same wavelength so as to avoid any further disappointments. Always keep in mind that with adult dating online you always have a choice, compared to if you were to meet a total stranger in a bar.