If you've tried your hand at online dating, you've run across this problem:
You find a great site, with some great pictures, and start to think "this is actually pretty good!" You create a profile and...
They want money.
It's not a lot of money normally, but you can see the issue. Some sites won't let you even browse without laying down a credit card. Others tease you like the one above, allow you to the door then slam it in your face.
The reason for this is pretty obvious. These pay dating sites are taking advantage of the fact that this is a HUGE industry. The amount of traffic dictates that you have a valuable commodity. Someone finally slapped a price tag on it.
What do you do about this? Well, the good news is that there are quite a few FREE dating sites out there. That's right, not a penny to join.
There are some other wonderful upsides to these sites, and some downsides too though. I'll show you the perks and show you how to deal with the issues.
One of the better perks is that you can see EVERYONE on these sites. All the pictures, and you can get a feel about someone without having to jump through hoops.
The down side of this is that there is a LOT of bad profiles. Many that don't have pictures, or have pictures that are either old, or fake. Since these fakers can set up as many free profiles as they want, they tend to do a lot of them. Why? There are a multitude of reasons, but only a few apply here.
The primary way to deal with this is to be specific in what you are looking for, first and foremost.
Are you partial to redheads? Then search for redheads only, to start. It's always a good idea to start with specifics, then move on up with generalizations. One thing to always look for is the option for profiles with pictures only.
Second, take a look at the pictures. Is it a singular picture of a model from a magazine? With no accompanying "real life" pictures? Chances are, it's a fake profile.
The last thing to watch for are solicitations. Rule of thumb: if they want you to leave the site, or email them off of it, then forget it.
You should be able to weed out the good from the bad easily, with some practice. This is important, as you don't want to spend too much time having to weed through the multitude of profiles you encounter.
That brings me to another issue- high traffic means high competition. If a profile of a very attractive woman goes up, rest assured she'll get bombarded with emails, more than she can read. She'll be able to set some high standards. Don't fret though, you can come out ahead of the curve, if you understand what to say.
The key is to get her attention fast. First and foremost, have a picture. Period. No picture, no response, I can guarantee you this.
Next, you need to quickly catch her attention with what you've written, and not appear typical. See my website for more information.
Make sure to mind your manners as well. Although I HOPE this should be obvious, I can guarantee you that a classy woman isn't going to want to date some guy who starts off with a lewd solicitation.
Heeding the above should allow you to separate yourself from the first wave of riffraff she'll encounter.
One final tip: don't get discouraged! You'll get some no replies, and some flat out "no" answers, but remember it's a huge numbers game. Get out there, hit it hard and you'll be rewarded.
So which free sites are good? I like Plenty Of Fish, or Ok Cupid. For my area they are pretty good. Try them, and if you don't like what you see, keep looking on google. If a site looks good, give it a try!
2012年9月4日星期二
2012年8月29日星期三
Afraid of Blushing on Your Wedding Day?
Your wedding day is the most exciting day of your life and should not be spoiled by nerves in any shape or form. And yet this is what so often happens. The bride is afraid of blushing or of her voice becoming high pitched as she makes her vows. The groom, on the other hand, just cannot relax until the dreaded speech is over. What a shame! Both bride and groom should be able to enjoy every single moment of this special day. The focus should be upon being blissfully in love and the planning of a future together.
The fact is that not everyone enjoys being in the spotlight, not everyone has become acclimatized to being the centre of attention. Every bride and groom, however, is going to be in just this spotlight. You know that these people who are here to share your day are friends and family, people who you know well and yet this doesn't seem to help overcome the worries. In fact for many it simply served to make the worry more intense. You don't want to make a fool of yourself in front of anyone at all.
For anyone who blushes, this is the most annoying and frustrating thing. It just happens. Logically you know that you are comfortable and then whoosh, the blush appears. Blushing is in fact an automatic habit, and this instinctive reaction is almost always something that began as a child and has simply remained. It is an out-dated habit, but it just happens. And if you worry about it happening it happens all the more. Of course, on your wedding day, you want everything to be perfect and so you worry more than ever about blushing.
But help is at hand. As I said, blushing is just a habit. Just as habits can be learned, they can be un-learned too, so long as you go about it in the right way. Hypnosis is a great, and essential, tool in the ability to change a habit. Your conscious and logical mind knows that there is no need to blush, and the harder you try not to blush, the more in fact you do blush. It seems that your conscious and logical efforts create the exact opposite of that which you desire.
This is because of the "mechanics" of your mind. Where there is a conflict between your will power and your imagination, your imagination wins. Think now of what happens in your mind when you tell yourself not to blush. What pictures immediately sprang into your awareness? Hypnosis is a state of relaxation, and as you learn to use hypnosis you will learn how to relax in an instant, whenever you want to or whenever you feel that you need to.
But this is not all that hypnosis does. Hypnosis is a state of mind which allows access to your subconscious mind, the place where habits are stored. Thus powerful hypnotic suggestions can be made to change old habits and replace them with new. This is why I said before that habits can be un-learned. Also, when in hypnosis, the creative part of your mind comes to the fore and you can be guided to visualize yourself as you want to be. In hypnosis, you can mentally rehearse, and therefore create a deep-rooted expectation of yourself being as you want to be, free from blushing. You can learn to visualize yourself relaxed, calm and comfortable upon your wedding day.
Your fear may not be of blushing, it may instead be of trembling or shaking, or of getting tongue tied. Whatever your fears are they can be alleviated with the help of hypnosis downloads. You can be guided to release your worries and to pave the way for a wonderful and exciting wedding day.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for your wedding day bliss.
http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com
The fact is that not everyone enjoys being in the spotlight, not everyone has become acclimatized to being the centre of attention. Every bride and groom, however, is going to be in just this spotlight. You know that these people who are here to share your day are friends and family, people who you know well and yet this doesn't seem to help overcome the worries. In fact for many it simply served to make the worry more intense. You don't want to make a fool of yourself in front of anyone at all.
For anyone who blushes, this is the most annoying and frustrating thing. It just happens. Logically you know that you are comfortable and then whoosh, the blush appears. Blushing is in fact an automatic habit, and this instinctive reaction is almost always something that began as a child and has simply remained. It is an out-dated habit, but it just happens. And if you worry about it happening it happens all the more. Of course, on your wedding day, you want everything to be perfect and so you worry more than ever about blushing.
But help is at hand. As I said, blushing is just a habit. Just as habits can be learned, they can be un-learned too, so long as you go about it in the right way. Hypnosis is a great, and essential, tool in the ability to change a habit. Your conscious and logical mind knows that there is no need to blush, and the harder you try not to blush, the more in fact you do blush. It seems that your conscious and logical efforts create the exact opposite of that which you desire.
This is because of the "mechanics" of your mind. Where there is a conflict between your will power and your imagination, your imagination wins. Think now of what happens in your mind when you tell yourself not to blush. What pictures immediately sprang into your awareness? Hypnosis is a state of relaxation, and as you learn to use hypnosis you will learn how to relax in an instant, whenever you want to or whenever you feel that you need to.
But this is not all that hypnosis does. Hypnosis is a state of mind which allows access to your subconscious mind, the place where habits are stored. Thus powerful hypnotic suggestions can be made to change old habits and replace them with new. This is why I said before that habits can be un-learned. Also, when in hypnosis, the creative part of your mind comes to the fore and you can be guided to visualize yourself as you want to be. In hypnosis, you can mentally rehearse, and therefore create a deep-rooted expectation of yourself being as you want to be, free from blushing. You can learn to visualize yourself relaxed, calm and comfortable upon your wedding day.
Your fear may not be of blushing, it may instead be of trembling or shaking, or of getting tongue tied. Whatever your fears are they can be alleviated with the help of hypnosis downloads. You can be guided to release your worries and to pave the way for a wonderful and exciting wedding day.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for your wedding day bliss.
http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com
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