Are You Perpetually "The Friend"

Everyone has this happen, but I'm curious how often it happens for you: You find yourself really attracted to a girl, only to end up as her "friend."

I mean - it usually SEEMS like she's into you, right? It feels like you have a good rapport going on, and she appears interested...

But then, when you make your move, she looks surprised and lays the line on you:

"Let's just be friends."

>From there, you're confused, frustrated, and most of all - you feel like you somehow blew your shot.

Oddly enough, this happens all the time - even to "good looking" guys.

And guess what? Most guys have zero clue as to how or why this happens!

So what causes a girl to want to be "just friends?"

There is a HUGE reason actually. Most men do absolutely nothing to separate themselves from regular guys as to potential lovers.

In short: They lack the ability to "attract" the girl physically.

They play it safe. They never say anything off color. They never flirt. They never try and be anything but "friendly" to the girl.

And then they wonder why they get stuck as the friend.

Understand - from the moment you meet a girl, you must display that you're interested in her as more than "just friends" .

Now, that doesn't mean you have to come off like a desperate, sleazy pick up artist. You just need to communicate your interest in a way where the girl picks up on it, but it doesn't scare her off.

This is why so many guys MESS UP.

Some guys will flat out tell a girl they're interested in her. That can work sometimes, but this tactic will tend to scare off some women.

Then there are the guys who are SO SUBTLE in their overtures, that the girls never pick up on their hints that they're interested.

Therein lies the key. You've got to let her know you are interested in her, but you can't let her be completely sure of it.

This uncertainty will drive her nuts, as she can't be completely sure that you are into her. It will drive a certain physical/emotional tension in her.

This is a crucial part of attraction.

Without it, you get pegged as the gender-neutral friend.

With it, you are a viable candidate for an intimate relationship.

So how do you build this tension? What's the secret?

The biggest thing you can do is learn how to flirt with women! The art of flirting is about displaying your interest for a girl without ever coming out and SAYING it.

So she picks up on your signs of attraction, but she's not 100% sure about it.

Another thing is to have fun with the girl, while continuing to apply your flirting skills. Going out and having a good time together will create all types of fun feelings, but when you add in the "sensual" element of flirting, that tension is created.

Finally, resist falling into the habits and roles that friends fulfill. Don't sit around and listen to the girl's problems.

Focus on her emotions, make her FEEL what you want her to feel. Don't be the "friend," be the guy who's "exciting" and "mysterious."

Demonstrate with your body language and flirting that you're not interested in just "being friends," and chances are, you'll get to be something more.

How to Get Your Ex Back Even After Someone Cheated

You see it on television and read about it in the papers. Stars can get away with it without consequence and life goes on. However, now it’s happening to you and things aren’t turning out as well as you expected. He cheated on you or you may have cheated on him; all you know is you want him back but you’re not sure how to get him.

While it’s more likely that you did the cheating and are trying to figure out how to win your ex’s trust back, it is possible that your ex cheated on you then left you. You may still want to be with him, even though you’re hurt - and bravo to you if you can forgive him - you realize that he complimented your life in a way that no one else can so you want him back.

The start of a relationship usually begins by appeal. If he left you for someone else, it’s likely that other person had more appeal than you. You may have gotten lazy over doing the special things like wearing makeup and doing your hair for him, as you got more comfortable being in a relationship with him. The key to winning back your ex is to returning to who you were when you first met. You snagged his attention once; you’re likely to be able to do it again.

However, in the more likely chance that you cheated on him, getting him back is going to be more difficult. You broke his trust, hurt his feelings and may have ruined your chances with an amazing guy that didn’t deserve what you did to him. If your ex is willing to give you a second chance, you’re going to have to really earn it to keep him. You’re going to have to gain his forgiveness. You’re going to have to swear to him and yourself that you’re never going to cheat on him again. You’re going to have to recognize what made you weak the first time and communicate to him your worries and concerns - he should be able to help you. You’re going to have to earn his trust back and show him that you deserve to be with him again.

Though the road may be long, it is possible to get back with your ex after cheating. Don’t beat yourself up and lose it because you need to be pulled together in order for anything to work. If you both realize the love you share is enough to get you through this error, it’s very possible to get back with your ex.