The Art Of Kino - How To Touch A Woman

A crucial skill in any social interaction is knowing the proper way to touch - or kino - a woman as a part of the act of seduction.

We all want to be touched from the moment we emerge from the womb. When a baby comes into the world, the only thing that quiets him is when he is handed over to his mother and he gets his first taste of being held.

What are your attitudes and boundaries in regards to kino? How much physical contact do you get from the people who are close to you? To really understand kino and what it means to others, you must know what it means to you.

All too often, men feel uncomfortable touching others. There's some taboo associated with being "too physical" with other people, and many guys are hesitant to do so.

But learning to be more comfortable with physical interaction is key to succeeding, because it is through this interaction that we are able to kindle the notion of intimacy between two people.

Start to pay attention to how you touch people you're comfortable with - your friends and family. Grab someone's arm gently when you want to make an important statement. If someone is sad, or tired, or stressed, rub their upper back in light circles and give their shoulder a squeeze.

Deep down, everyone is starving for real human contact, and you will rarely - if ever - have someone ask you to stop touching them as long as you have built up a certain level of rapport and comfort with them.

Once you get comfortable with your tactile communication, you will want to start initiating touching with the women you are attracted to.

When meeting a girl for the first time, start up the kino as soon as possible. Make a few jokes, charm her with your irresistible wit, and touch her upper arm gently.

Most of all: PAY ATTENTION to how she responds!

If you are getting green lights - like her smiling, touching you back, playing with her hair, tilting her head - then escalate the kino SLOWLY by removing your hand, waiting for another high point in the conversation and then touch her at the waist.

If you are getting red lights - like she gives the "what do you think you're doing?" look, backs away, or breaks eye contact - then back off and take it easy for a while. Even if her backing off upsets you, don't let her know it! Be cool, and show her that you aren't trying to move too fast.

Go from light touches on the hands and wrists, to holding hands. Put your hand on her knee when she's sitting next to you. High-five her when she says something fun or interesting. Give her a hug. Brush her hair out of her face with your hand. Rub her shoulders.

The more you touch, the stronger your bond with the woman will become.

Remember - you don't have to be "Mr. Smooth" to make this work. Escalating kino is a process. It's about gradual escalation towards being intimate with a woman, so don't be afraid to trip up or take a chance every once in a while.

Of all the tools a man has at his disposal, kino is by far one of the most powerful. Just remember, all you need to do is slowly ease from light touching, to heavy kino to escalate the intimacy.

Turn hugs into cuddles, cuddles into kisses, etc.

It is amazing how much more you can communicate with just one touch, than you can in hours of talking. And before you know it, you'll begin to see her emotions towards you change, all because you knew how to touch her the right way!

Live In Friend: A Much Needed New Word

We are handicapped in English in our “modern” culture. We now have many people who live together without marriage. This includes the heterosexual pairs, and also homosexual pairs. To some very religious persons, “living in sin”, might be their description. To more moderate and forgiving persons, there is no word that fits the category.

The “oldies” aren’t “goodies” in this case. “Boyfriend” and “girlfriend” implies something much simpler and childlike. Fiancée implies an actual engagement with a ring, and at least marriage in the future. POOSLQ - “persons of opposite sex sharing living quarters” has the same disadvantage as the others, no room for homosexual couples. Further, it’s not very easy to remember, and a mouthful. not only to say, but in many cases explain. “My roommate” implies a financial relationship, not a sexual one. (It may be used when the couple involved are “in the closet”, so to speak.) It’s perhaps the vaguest of all these terms.

Some years ago, I was embarrassed because I couldn’t remember exactly what POOSLQ stood for. I had used the term in a conversation. I thought it was “persons of opposite sex living together”, and couldn’t remember what the “Q” stood for. This memory lapse caused me to think about this term off and on for some months at the back of my mind. I thought of several different words. But none seemed to cover all the possibilities well.

In a moment when I had nothing better to do, I thought about this word again. I learned long ago to simply put down on paper what I was trying to do, so I put down “person living with another”. From that my mind leaped to the phrase “living with friend”. This gave LWF, and that’s not as simple as I wanted it. I quickly came to “live in friend”, and the initials “LIF” make up a new word.

Note how well this covers all the various situations of couples living together, whether heterosexual or homosexual. It fits nearly all situations.

In 1953, I met an Air Force Lieutenant who had spent time living in a tent in North Africa with another Lieutenant near the end of World War II. There was literally nothing to do much of the time, so they played word games, simply to pass the time. One day they decided to invent a new word, and spent several hours (as my friend told it) finding a word to use.

They finally came up with a new word “ZILCH”. They finally decided that it should be a word meaning “nothing”, as they felt that that’s what they were doing in that tent. It has now become a very common word in the English language, and very few even know what the original meaning of that word was. Being males in that time and place and circumstances, it was, of course, obscene. They finally decided on two descriptions.

1. “A wet bag of crushed assholes”.
2. “A crushed bag of wet assholes”.

Both descriptions, of course, mean nothing, and almost nobody knows the actual original meaning.

I hope that my word “LIF” gets even close to the circulation of “ZILCH”. We need a word for these situations that is simple, and easy.