Talking Dirty To Your Guy - Why He Loves It!

Why is dirty talking so popular these days? Our modern culture has led to the flourishing of a new kind of openness in the bedroom. Gone are the days when sex was a furtive act and a desire for adventure something you voiced at great peril.

Couples today are more relaxed and only too happy to discover new pathways in their love-lives with each other. They are well informed and aware of who they are and what they want. And they are definitely interested in exploring all the options that are available to further their desires and enhance their pleasures in each other.

Should You Panic?

But even the modern woman with all her freedom, might be tempted to hit the panic button when her boyfriend expresses a desire to get her talking dirty.

You might freeze up in nervousness. You might wonder how you could ever carry off a thing like that… But is dirty talking such a big deal?

Relax! Once you understand why your guy loves dirty talking, you’ll find it the simplest thing to do.

The Secret about Why He Loves Dirty Talk

When it comes to talking dirty, you just need to one little secret about your man to put yourself totally at ease!

If you have been with him long enough, you probably already know this secret! It is just that you haven’t recognized it as the fundamental truth that makes dirty talking so attractive to him.

So what is the big secret that makes dirty talking such a big hit with men? Simple! Man is a very basic animal when it comes to sex!

Men don’t really need all the romance and finesse that women need, to get turned on. Ask any man and he would fervently swear “Pass the raw, basic stuff; and dish it out in plenty!”

What Does He Consider Dirty?

When you get to talking to turn your guy on, forget the wishy-washy stuff of old romance novels. There is no point in whispering things that just might make him start snoring.

When he wants you to dirty talk, he wants you to break the mould! He wants to see your wild side. He wants the thrill of knowing he can loosen up your strings in front of him. Knowing that he can conquer your inhibitions and liberate your desires can be a powerful aphrodisiac.

So now you know what you should do. Or rather, what you should say. Go basic. Appeal to his barest, most carnal urges when you talk and make him feel like a King!

Stimulate his ears. Stir up his imagination. Let him anticipate every word you promise to make him feel. Invite him with your words and let him in turn, invite you to the feast. He will reward you with his undivided attention. You will have your captivated man so entranced with your dirty talk, he will never think of looking anywhere else to satisfy his basest desires.

The Body Language Of Flirting, Part 3

In part of the series, I'll cover how your POSTURE can make a HUGE impact on your success with women!

Most people don't realize that their posture is bad, and that it becomes worse around the opposite gender.

Our posture, and the rest of our body language, can betray us even if we've done a great job controlling the emotions that we show with our faces.

The good news is, we can learn to spot, control, and even use your postural language in your favor!

Take a good look at your physical posture when speaking to a woman you are attracted to. Overall, if you are displaying that you are displaying tension, nervousness, or poor self esteem, it will come through.

She'll notice this as well. And often, she'll mirror it. What we display to others, they will reflect right back.

That's good news! If you put some positive, strong body language out there, and display a confident posture, it will help her feel more comfortable, and she'll find your company far more enjoyable too!

Still, she may not be open. To know if she is, here are a few signs to look for:

-Watch which way her body is turned. Is it towards you? That's good; if it's to the side, take a hard look to see if she's preoccupied. This includes feet too - generally they lead, in fact.

-Is she leaned forward, or back? If forward, leaning towards you, that's a great sign - you probably have her full attention. If backwards, and she seems distracted, she'll possibly be bored. Especially if her head is in a hand.

-Does she appear open or closed off? Take a look at her arms and legs. Are they crossed tight, along with her leaning back? Or are they open, accompanying a forward lean? You'll want the latter to be true.

-The really good signs, in culmination: leaning forward, fully focused, and possibly her head slightly tilted to one side. Step back for a moment and pay attention. If this is what is happening, then you are doing well.

Those are good indicators to see where her interest is. There are a few that are even better though, but they aren't specific.

If she is "mirroring" you posturally, this is really GOOD. It shows a congruence between you and her; If you lead, she'll probably follow. And don't be surprised if you find yourself following her lead too.

What does this look like then?

You'll have the same side of each other moving towards the other- so if you have your right shoulder forward, she'll have her left, and vice versa.

This is a tremendous advantage to you - you can mirror her, without her knowing it, and she'll see you more positively than if you didn't!

There are also gender specific gestures that are common. Watch for her. Odds are, if you are comfortable, you'll do these naturally, so don't worry about yours in particular.

For her, watch for her trying to heighten the display of gender specific features, such as arching her back to show her breasts, or crossing and uncrossing her legs to show them.

The main thing is to be aware and pay attention to the above. They will help you with your decision making when it comes to women!

Coming up in the next part, I'll write about how your gestures effect your success with girls!