Everyone has this happen, but I'm curious how often it happens for you: You find yourself really attracted to a girl, only to end up as her "friend."
I mean - it usually SEEMS like she's into you, right? It feels like you have a good rapport going on, and she appears interested...
But then, when you make your move, she looks surprised and lays the line on you:
"Let's just be friends."
>From there, you're confused, frustrated, and most of all - you feel like you somehow blew your shot.
Oddly enough, this happens all the time - even to "good looking" guys.
And guess what? Most guys have zero clue as to how or why this happens!
So what causes a girl to want to be "just friends?"
There is a HUGE reason actually. Most men do absolutely nothing to separate themselves from regular guys as to potential lovers.
In short: They lack the ability to "attract" the girl physically.
They play it safe. They never say anything off color. They never flirt. They never try and be anything but "friendly" to the girl.
And then they wonder why they get stuck as the friend.
Understand - from the moment you meet a girl, you must display that you're interested in her as more than "just friends" .
Now, that doesn't mean you have to come off like a desperate, sleazy pick up artist. You just need to communicate your interest in a way where the girl picks up on it, but it doesn't scare her off.
This is why so many guys MESS UP.
Some guys will flat out tell a girl they're interested in her. That can work sometimes, but this tactic will tend to scare off some women.
Then there are the guys who are SO SUBTLE in their overtures, that the girls never pick up on their hints that they're interested.
Therein lies the key. You've got to let her know you are interested in her, but you can't let her be completely sure of it.
This uncertainty will drive her nuts, as she can't be completely sure that you are into her. It will drive a certain physical/emotional tension in her.
This is a crucial part of attraction.
Without it, you get pegged as the gender-neutral friend.
With it, you are a viable candidate for an intimate relationship.
So how do you build this tension? What's the secret?
The biggest thing you can do is learn how to flirt with women! The art of flirting is about displaying your interest for a girl without ever coming out and SAYING it.
So she picks up on your signs of attraction, but she's not 100% sure about it.
Another thing is to have fun with the girl, while continuing to apply your flirting skills. Going out and having a good time together will create all types of fun feelings, but when you add in the "sensual" element of flirting, that tension is created.
Finally, resist falling into the habits and roles that friends fulfill. Don't sit around and listen to the girl's problems.
Focus on her emotions, make her FEEL what you want her to feel. Don't be the "friend," be the guy who's "exciting" and "mysterious."
Demonstrate with your body language and flirting that you're not interested in just "being friends," and chances are, you'll get to be something more.
2012年10月8日星期一
Ways To End Relationships: How To Break Up With Someone Painlessly
Breaking up is like swallowing a bitter pill. You know it’s not going to be any good but you still have to do it to get better anyway. Nobody likes to be the one to break the bad news; but luckily, people are starting to learn the proper ways to end relationships - ways that will make the whole ordeal less painful.
Over time, people have learned the best ways to end relationships. A lot of it has to do with common sense; but since this is quite an emotional time for the couples involved, common sense does not exactly have a place here. The tips below are intended to set you free while minimizing the emotional hurt that might result.
Ways To End Relationships # 1: No Guilt Tripping
One of the worst ways to break up is by guilt tripping the other person. Even though the other person does have to shoulder the blame, pointing your fingers at him or her will only prolong the break up process.
Your partner will naturally try to make up for his or her “faults” and you might even end up giving the relationship another go. And isn’t that just totally opposite of your goal?
Ways To End Relationships # 2: No Gift Swapping
Don’t give goodbye presents. Don’t accept any either. Once you accept a present from the person you broke up with, it means that there’s still a chance for the two of you to patch things up. That’s not what you really need at this point, right?
Ways To End Relationships # 3: No Words Left Unsaid
Don’t reserve your words for another meeting. Say what you need to say when you have the chance to say it. Not taking this opportunity would only make you feel restless and dissatisfied with the whole break up process. Besides, you won’t get another shot at admitting your emotions. It’s time for a clean break up. End everything now.
Remember these ways to end relationships and you’ll soon be on your way to recovery. Don’t forget to try to make things as simple and as clear as possible. Don’t be swayed by presents or tears either.
Over time, people have learned the best ways to end relationships. A lot of it has to do with common sense; but since this is quite an emotional time for the couples involved, common sense does not exactly have a place here. The tips below are intended to set you free while minimizing the emotional hurt that might result.
Ways To End Relationships # 1: No Guilt Tripping
One of the worst ways to break up is by guilt tripping the other person. Even though the other person does have to shoulder the blame, pointing your fingers at him or her will only prolong the break up process.
Your partner will naturally try to make up for his or her “faults” and you might even end up giving the relationship another go. And isn’t that just totally opposite of your goal?
Ways To End Relationships # 2: No Gift Swapping
Don’t give goodbye presents. Don’t accept any either. Once you accept a present from the person you broke up with, it means that there’s still a chance for the two of you to patch things up. That’s not what you really need at this point, right?
Ways To End Relationships # 3: No Words Left Unsaid
Don’t reserve your words for another meeting. Say what you need to say when you have the chance to say it. Not taking this opportunity would only make you feel restless and dissatisfied with the whole break up process. Besides, you won’t get another shot at admitting your emotions. It’s time for a clean break up. End everything now.
Remember these ways to end relationships and you’ll soon be on your way to recovery. Don’t forget to try to make things as simple and as clear as possible. Don’t be swayed by presents or tears either.
OnLine Romance: Executive Dating Tips
When looking to date someone in a professional position, you should know that most executives are leery of joining traditional on line dating sites. You likely will not find many eligible executives listed on those sites. However, there are dating sites that actually cater to executives that you can join and develop a relationship.
You may also be surprised to learn that many executives are not really looking to date another executive. Many are primarily looking for someone to go to dinner with, maybe a take in a show or have a night out on the town just for some fun and relaxation. Being an executive can be very stressful and a date with someone who is not a fellow executive is preferable because it eliminates "shop talk" and focuses on just having fun.
That said, it does help your chances of getting a date if you are a professional person who can match up as far as education and intellect. You should not be in the same profession, however, just to keep it interesting for both of you. For example, a Wall Street type might fit well with a professional concert musician or photographer.
Executive online dating sites operate much the same as mainstream online dating sites. You will be required to create a personal profile. You should keep your profile accurate and honest. Honestly share your likes, dislikes, education, and so forth so a potential date can decide whether to pursue you further. Post your best head shot and perhaps some snapshots or video of you having fun doing your favorite things.
Executive online dating sites, like traditional sites, allow members to view the profiles of potential partners easily. This allows you to search for a particular type of professional you hope will be your perfect date. You can search the database using a wide range of criteria to narrow the field.
Of course, it is not unusual for some executives to be seeking a marriage partner. Executive dating sites are an easy way to narrow the selection of potential mates. If getting married is your goal, you may want to state that fact in your profile. Don't hide the fact. It will eliminate prospects who are only interested in a platonic relationship.
Another aspect of executive online dating sites, that is quite popular, is the ability to meet other executives with similar business interests or hobbies. This can lead to joint business ventures or just simple friendships which can broaden experiences and knowledge of shared hobbies. Using an executive dating site does not have to be only about dating or marriage.
As with all online dating services, caution is strongly advised, especially if you are seeking to date an executive with a highly visible position in their company. Most executives are careful whom they choose to date to be sure they will not jeapordize their company or put themselves in a compromising position. This is another reason to choose someone who is not in your profession. It eliminates conflicts and doubt. Executives are aware that it is not unusual for competitors to troll executive dating sites looking for an advantage.
While executive dating sites were established to cater primarily to the time and schedule constraints of busy executives, executives are not 100% immune to persons who might try and exploit them financially. This is why it is a good idea to use mainly executive online dating sites with an established reputation rather than newer sites. Of course, if you find a site that has good testimonials from other members, sign up and check it out to see if it fits.
When evaluating which site to join, review the number of executive listings. Look over some member profiles, if they allow it. The more executives listed, the better chance you will have of finding someone in their database that matches you.
Another way to check out potential executive dating sites is to simply do an Internet search for "reviews". Use the name of the site and the word "reviews". You will likely find comments from folks who either like or dislike the particular site and their reasons. You may also find reviews by people who are experts at evaluating such sites. However, make sure the reviews are not pushing a particular site. The review writer may be getting a commission if you sign up through their review.
How much are membership fees?
Well, the best executive dating sites do charge a membership fee and will require that you fill out an application form of some kind, perhaps, even require that you answer survey questions to be sure your motives are honorable. That said, you will find the cost very reasonable for the value they provide.
Some sites have various plans from which to choose and they are priced accordingly. To get a feel for the whole on line dating process, look for free on line dating sites and those that offer a free trial period before you actually commit to a membership fee.
Many people have found companionship, love, and marriage through online executive dating sites. So, go ahead and give it a chance. You just might become one of the success stories.
You may also be surprised to learn that many executives are not really looking to date another executive. Many are primarily looking for someone to go to dinner with, maybe a take in a show or have a night out on the town just for some fun and relaxation. Being an executive can be very stressful and a date with someone who is not a fellow executive is preferable because it eliminates "shop talk" and focuses on just having fun.
That said, it does help your chances of getting a date if you are a professional person who can match up as far as education and intellect. You should not be in the same profession, however, just to keep it interesting for both of you. For example, a Wall Street type might fit well with a professional concert musician or photographer.
Executive online dating sites operate much the same as mainstream online dating sites. You will be required to create a personal profile. You should keep your profile accurate and honest. Honestly share your likes, dislikes, education, and so forth so a potential date can decide whether to pursue you further. Post your best head shot and perhaps some snapshots or video of you having fun doing your favorite things.
Executive online dating sites, like traditional sites, allow members to view the profiles of potential partners easily. This allows you to search for a particular type of professional you hope will be your perfect date. You can search the database using a wide range of criteria to narrow the field.
Of course, it is not unusual for some executives to be seeking a marriage partner. Executive dating sites are an easy way to narrow the selection of potential mates. If getting married is your goal, you may want to state that fact in your profile. Don't hide the fact. It will eliminate prospects who are only interested in a platonic relationship.
Another aspect of executive online dating sites, that is quite popular, is the ability to meet other executives with similar business interests or hobbies. This can lead to joint business ventures or just simple friendships which can broaden experiences and knowledge of shared hobbies. Using an executive dating site does not have to be only about dating or marriage.
As with all online dating services, caution is strongly advised, especially if you are seeking to date an executive with a highly visible position in their company. Most executives are careful whom they choose to date to be sure they will not jeapordize their company or put themselves in a compromising position. This is another reason to choose someone who is not in your profession. It eliminates conflicts and doubt. Executives are aware that it is not unusual for competitors to troll executive dating sites looking for an advantage.
While executive dating sites were established to cater primarily to the time and schedule constraints of busy executives, executives are not 100% immune to persons who might try and exploit them financially. This is why it is a good idea to use mainly executive online dating sites with an established reputation rather than newer sites. Of course, if you find a site that has good testimonials from other members, sign up and check it out to see if it fits.
When evaluating which site to join, review the number of executive listings. Look over some member profiles, if they allow it. The more executives listed, the better chance you will have of finding someone in their database that matches you.
Another way to check out potential executive dating sites is to simply do an Internet search for "reviews". Use the name of the site and the word "reviews". You will likely find comments from folks who either like or dislike the particular site and their reasons. You may also find reviews by people who are experts at evaluating such sites. However, make sure the reviews are not pushing a particular site. The review writer may be getting a commission if you sign up through their review.
How much are membership fees?
Well, the best executive dating sites do charge a membership fee and will require that you fill out an application form of some kind, perhaps, even require that you answer survey questions to be sure your motives are honorable. That said, you will find the cost very reasonable for the value they provide.
Some sites have various plans from which to choose and they are priced accordingly. To get a feel for the whole on line dating process, look for free on line dating sites and those that offer a free trial period before you actually commit to a membership fee.
Many people have found companionship, love, and marriage through online executive dating sites. So, go ahead and give it a chance. You just might become one of the success stories.
2012年10月7日星期日
5 Tips That Can Help You Get Past a Breakup
Have you ever heard someone say that they could survive a breakup with someone that they had been with for a bit of time? Don't believe it. Even the strong falter when they go through a breakup. A breakup has a tremendous impact on a person's life. However, if dealt with in the appropriate manner, the person can get past their breakup and get their happiness back and quite possibly their ex too. How? By following these 5 simple tips listed below.
Tip 1 - Deal with Depression
When you are dealing with the aftermath of a breakup, it can be difficult to face people. You almost certainly want to be alone. Don't. It is important that you get together with folks that love and care about you. Seek out these people who don't mind lending you an ear in case you need to talk. By being with them, you can heal your broken heart. If people, including your ex, see you moving past the breakup, you get credit and respect for being able to deal with it.
Tip 2 - Don't Turn to Downers/Uppers
Some people who go through a breakup may turn to drugs or alcohol to help them deal with the feelings. Bad move. Never touch alcohol or drugs during the breakup period. If you are upset and drinking, it's only going to get worse not better. In fact, drinking and doing drugs can lead to other destructive behavior that can keep you from wining back your ex.
Tip 3 - Remain Vigil to the No Contact Rule
Never believe that a breakup is easy when you see your ex every day. In fact, it's the worst thing you could do for yourself especially if your goal is to win them back. Make a clean break and give yourself and your ex some space. Remember absence does make the heart grow fonder so it's important that you keep to the rule. You can also sort your feelings out and deal with the problems that plagued the relationship on your end.
Tip 4 - Make a Plan
It's very important that a plan is well thought out before you attempt to win back your ex. When you are planning it out, you have less time and reasons to make mistakes. Stability is a necessity when you are trying to win back your ex so keep this in mind as you make your plan. You don't want to do anything that messes up your chances.
Tip 5 - Prepare Yourself
All the preparation of winning your ex back can be in vain. You may love your ex and she/he you but sometimes love just isn't enough. Face the reality that the relationship just isn't meant to be. Once you do this, you can get past a breakup and move on with your life and find someone who is meant for you.
By utilizing these five steps, you can come out a winner with the breakup. You can even win a chance to get back together with your ex and not make stupid little mistakes that can hinder any progress you have made in winning them back.
Tip 1 - Deal with Depression
When you are dealing with the aftermath of a breakup, it can be difficult to face people. You almost certainly want to be alone. Don't. It is important that you get together with folks that love and care about you. Seek out these people who don't mind lending you an ear in case you need to talk. By being with them, you can heal your broken heart. If people, including your ex, see you moving past the breakup, you get credit and respect for being able to deal with it.
Tip 2 - Don't Turn to Downers/Uppers
Some people who go through a breakup may turn to drugs or alcohol to help them deal with the feelings. Bad move. Never touch alcohol or drugs during the breakup period. If you are upset and drinking, it's only going to get worse not better. In fact, drinking and doing drugs can lead to other destructive behavior that can keep you from wining back your ex.
Tip 3 - Remain Vigil to the No Contact Rule
Never believe that a breakup is easy when you see your ex every day. In fact, it's the worst thing you could do for yourself especially if your goal is to win them back. Make a clean break and give yourself and your ex some space. Remember absence does make the heart grow fonder so it's important that you keep to the rule. You can also sort your feelings out and deal with the problems that plagued the relationship on your end.
Tip 4 - Make a Plan
It's very important that a plan is well thought out before you attempt to win back your ex. When you are planning it out, you have less time and reasons to make mistakes. Stability is a necessity when you are trying to win back your ex so keep this in mind as you make your plan. You don't want to do anything that messes up your chances.
Tip 5 - Prepare Yourself
All the preparation of winning your ex back can be in vain. You may love your ex and she/he you but sometimes love just isn't enough. Face the reality that the relationship just isn't meant to be. Once you do this, you can get past a breakup and move on with your life and find someone who is meant for you.
By utilizing these five steps, you can come out a winner with the breakup. You can even win a chance to get back together with your ex and not make stupid little mistakes that can hinder any progress you have made in winning them back.
How A Woman Enjoys Being Kissed
Nothing beats good kissing when it comes to keeping a woman's attraction towards you intact.
Many men don't pay attention to their technique or just don't care about their performance when it comes to kissing. And often, they are left without a return phone call.
This is because women will often judge a man's potential based on how good of a kisser he his!
The first kiss with a girl is very important for that reason. So it's important to make a positive impression with a good and memorable kiss.
So how does a guy make the first kiss one to remember?
I'm going to share a little secret with you.
It's a secret that I talk about all the time, but very few men really know about.
The secret is ANTICIPATION.
Anticipation is an incredibly important concept when it comes to ramping up your relationship with a woman.
Now, I believe that it's important to incorporate it into every part of your interactions with a woman - but this is especially true when it comes to the art of kissing.
If you really don't know how to kiss a woman, then I have a recommendation:
START SLOW, THEN KISS HER LIKE SHE KISSES YOU.
Here's how to mix this strategy with that of Anticipation...
Let's say that you decide it's time to kiss her. Just as you start to kiss her, when you first feel your lips touching hers - stop right there!
Move your lips across hers, back and forth, brushing a bit, then pull back.
At this point - smile at her!
Okay, at this point you'll probably be sitting there thinking, "Why the heck didn't I just kiss her?" But bear with me here...
She'll probably be sitting there tingling all over, and feeling like she wants you to continue!
Then, play it cool and lean back. Talk with her a little more.
A few minutes later, touch her hair. Lean over to kiss her again. This time, go VERY slowly, gently press your lips against hers. Hold them there for a moment, and feel how she responds.
If she kisses you the same way, then just stop, lean back, and relax again for a few minutes.
The next time you kiss her, open your mouth just a little bit, and see if she does the same.
Do this a couple of times.
Odds are, she'll eventually start escalating things herself. The anticipation will start to effect her.
When this happens, stop her. Push her back. Just smile.
MORE ANTICIPATION.
Just keep mirroring how she's kissing you as things get more and more intense. This is a great way to "learn" how to kiss, and she'll enjoy it, because you'll be doing exactly what she likes!
Many men don't pay attention to their technique or just don't care about their performance when it comes to kissing. And often, they are left without a return phone call.
This is because women will often judge a man's potential based on how good of a kisser he his!
The first kiss with a girl is very important for that reason. So it's important to make a positive impression with a good and memorable kiss.
So how does a guy make the first kiss one to remember?
I'm going to share a little secret with you.
It's a secret that I talk about all the time, but very few men really know about.
The secret is ANTICIPATION.
Anticipation is an incredibly important concept when it comes to ramping up your relationship with a woman.
Now, I believe that it's important to incorporate it into every part of your interactions with a woman - but this is especially true when it comes to the art of kissing.
If you really don't know how to kiss a woman, then I have a recommendation:
START SLOW, THEN KISS HER LIKE SHE KISSES YOU.
Here's how to mix this strategy with that of Anticipation...
Let's say that you decide it's time to kiss her. Just as you start to kiss her, when you first feel your lips touching hers - stop right there!
Move your lips across hers, back and forth, brushing a bit, then pull back.
At this point - smile at her!
Okay, at this point you'll probably be sitting there thinking, "Why the heck didn't I just kiss her?" But bear with me here...
She'll probably be sitting there tingling all over, and feeling like she wants you to continue!
Then, play it cool and lean back. Talk with her a little more.
A few minutes later, touch her hair. Lean over to kiss her again. This time, go VERY slowly, gently press your lips against hers. Hold them there for a moment, and feel how she responds.
If she kisses you the same way, then just stop, lean back, and relax again for a few minutes.
The next time you kiss her, open your mouth just a little bit, and see if she does the same.
Do this a couple of times.
Odds are, she'll eventually start escalating things herself. The anticipation will start to effect her.
When this happens, stop her. Push her back. Just smile.
MORE ANTICIPATION.
Just keep mirroring how she's kissing you as things get more and more intense. This is a great way to "learn" how to kiss, and she'll enjoy it, because you'll be doing exactly what she likes!
Talking Dirty To Your Guy - Why He Loves It!
Why is dirty talking so popular these days? Our modern culture has led to the flourishing of a new kind of openness in the bedroom. Gone are the days when sex was a furtive act and a desire for adventure something you voiced at great peril.
Couples today are more relaxed and only too happy to discover new pathways in their love-lives with each other. They are well informed and aware of who they are and what they want. And they are definitely interested in exploring all the options that are available to further their desires and enhance their pleasures in each other.
Should You Panic?
But even the modern woman with all her freedom, might be tempted to hit the panic button when her boyfriend expresses a desire to get her talking dirty.
You might freeze up in nervousness. You might wonder how you could ever carry off a thing like that… But is dirty talking such a big deal?
Relax! Once you understand why your guy loves dirty talking, you’ll find it the simplest thing to do.
The Secret about Why He Loves Dirty Talk
When it comes to talking dirty, you just need to one little secret about your man to put yourself totally at ease!
If you have been with him long enough, you probably already know this secret! It is just that you haven’t recognized it as the fundamental truth that makes dirty talking so attractive to him.
So what is the big secret that makes dirty talking such a big hit with men? Simple! Man is a very basic animal when it comes to sex!
Men don’t really need all the romance and finesse that women need, to get turned on. Ask any man and he would fervently swear “Pass the raw, basic stuff; and dish it out in plenty!”
What Does He Consider Dirty?
When you get to talking to turn your guy on, forget the wishy-washy stuff of old romance novels. There is no point in whispering things that just might make him start snoring.
When he wants you to dirty talk, he wants you to break the mould! He wants to see your wild side. He wants the thrill of knowing he can loosen up your strings in front of him. Knowing that he can conquer your inhibitions and liberate your desires can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
So now you know what you should do. Or rather, what you should say. Go basic. Appeal to his barest, most carnal urges when you talk and make him feel like a King!
Stimulate his ears. Stir up his imagination. Let him anticipate every word you promise to make him feel. Invite him with your words and let him in turn, invite you to the feast. He will reward you with his undivided attention. You will have your captivated man so entranced with your dirty talk, he will never think of looking anywhere else to satisfy his basest desires.
Couples today are more relaxed and only too happy to discover new pathways in their love-lives with each other. They are well informed and aware of who they are and what they want. And they are definitely interested in exploring all the options that are available to further their desires and enhance their pleasures in each other.
Should You Panic?
But even the modern woman with all her freedom, might be tempted to hit the panic button when her boyfriend expresses a desire to get her talking dirty.
You might freeze up in nervousness. You might wonder how you could ever carry off a thing like that… But is dirty talking such a big deal?
Relax! Once you understand why your guy loves dirty talking, you’ll find it the simplest thing to do.
The Secret about Why He Loves Dirty Talk
When it comes to talking dirty, you just need to one little secret about your man to put yourself totally at ease!
If you have been with him long enough, you probably already know this secret! It is just that you haven’t recognized it as the fundamental truth that makes dirty talking so attractive to him.
So what is the big secret that makes dirty talking such a big hit with men? Simple! Man is a very basic animal when it comes to sex!
Men don’t really need all the romance and finesse that women need, to get turned on. Ask any man and he would fervently swear “Pass the raw, basic stuff; and dish it out in plenty!”
What Does He Consider Dirty?
When you get to talking to turn your guy on, forget the wishy-washy stuff of old romance novels. There is no point in whispering things that just might make him start snoring.
When he wants you to dirty talk, he wants you to break the mould! He wants to see your wild side. He wants the thrill of knowing he can loosen up your strings in front of him. Knowing that he can conquer your inhibitions and liberate your desires can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
So now you know what you should do. Or rather, what you should say. Go basic. Appeal to his barest, most carnal urges when you talk and make him feel like a King!
Stimulate his ears. Stir up his imagination. Let him anticipate every word you promise to make him feel. Invite him with your words and let him in turn, invite you to the feast. He will reward you with his undivided attention. You will have your captivated man so entranced with your dirty talk, he will never think of looking anywhere else to satisfy his basest desires.
The Art Of Kino - How To Touch A Woman
A crucial skill in any social interaction is knowing the proper way to touch - or kino - a woman as a part of the act of seduction.
We all want to be touched from the moment we emerge from the womb. When a baby comes into the world, the only thing that quiets him is when he is handed over to his mother and he gets his first taste of being held.
What are your attitudes and boundaries in regards to kino? How much physical contact do you get from the people who are close to you? To really understand kino and what it means to others, you must know what it means to you.
All too often, men feel uncomfortable touching others. There's some taboo associated with being "too physical" with other people, and many guys are hesitant to do so.
But learning to be more comfortable with physical interaction is key to succeeding, because it is through this interaction that we are able to kindle the notion of intimacy between two people.
Start to pay attention to how you touch people you're comfortable with - your friends and family. Grab someone's arm gently when you want to make an important statement. If someone is sad, or tired, or stressed, rub their upper back in light circles and give their shoulder a squeeze.
Deep down, everyone is starving for real human contact, and you will rarely - if ever - have someone ask you to stop touching them as long as you have built up a certain level of rapport and comfort with them.
Once you get comfortable with your tactile communication, you will want to start initiating touching with the women you are attracted to.
When meeting a girl for the first time, start up the kino as soon as possible. Make a few jokes, charm her with your irresistible wit, and touch her upper arm gently.
Most of all: PAY ATTENTION to how she responds!
If you are getting green lights - like her smiling, touching you back, playing with her hair, tilting her head - then escalate the kino SLOWLY by removing your hand, waiting for another high point in the conversation and then touch her at the waist.
If you are getting red lights - like she gives the "what do you think you're doing?" look, backs away, or breaks eye contact - then back off and take it easy for a while. Even if her backing off upsets you, don't let her know it! Be cool, and show her that you aren't trying to move too fast.
Go from light touches on the hands and wrists, to holding hands. Put your hand on her knee when she's sitting next to you. High-five her when she says something fun or interesting. Give her a hug. Brush her hair out of her face with your hand. Rub her shoulders.
The more you touch, the stronger your bond with the woman will become.
Remember - you don't have to be "Mr. Smooth" to make this work. Escalating kino is a process. It's about gradual escalation towards being intimate with a woman, so don't be afraid to trip up or take a chance every once in a while.
Of all the tools a man has at his disposal, kino is by far one of the most powerful. Just remember, all you need to do is slowly ease from light touching, to heavy kino to escalate the intimacy.
Turn hugs into cuddles, cuddles into kisses, etc.
It is amazing how much more you can communicate with just one touch, than you can in hours of talking. And before you know it, you'll begin to see her emotions towards you change, all because you knew how to touch her the right way!
We all want to be touched from the moment we emerge from the womb. When a baby comes into the world, the only thing that quiets him is when he is handed over to his mother and he gets his first taste of being held.
What are your attitudes and boundaries in regards to kino? How much physical contact do you get from the people who are close to you? To really understand kino and what it means to others, you must know what it means to you.
All too often, men feel uncomfortable touching others. There's some taboo associated with being "too physical" with other people, and many guys are hesitant to do so.
But learning to be more comfortable with physical interaction is key to succeeding, because it is through this interaction that we are able to kindle the notion of intimacy between two people.
Start to pay attention to how you touch people you're comfortable with - your friends and family. Grab someone's arm gently when you want to make an important statement. If someone is sad, or tired, or stressed, rub their upper back in light circles and give their shoulder a squeeze.
Deep down, everyone is starving for real human contact, and you will rarely - if ever - have someone ask you to stop touching them as long as you have built up a certain level of rapport and comfort with them.
Once you get comfortable with your tactile communication, you will want to start initiating touching with the women you are attracted to.
When meeting a girl for the first time, start up the kino as soon as possible. Make a few jokes, charm her with your irresistible wit, and touch her upper arm gently.
Most of all: PAY ATTENTION to how she responds!
If you are getting green lights - like her smiling, touching you back, playing with her hair, tilting her head - then escalate the kino SLOWLY by removing your hand, waiting for another high point in the conversation and then touch her at the waist.
If you are getting red lights - like she gives the "what do you think you're doing?" look, backs away, or breaks eye contact - then back off and take it easy for a while. Even if her backing off upsets you, don't let her know it! Be cool, and show her that you aren't trying to move too fast.
Go from light touches on the hands and wrists, to holding hands. Put your hand on her knee when she's sitting next to you. High-five her when she says something fun or interesting. Give her a hug. Brush her hair out of her face with your hand. Rub her shoulders.
The more you touch, the stronger your bond with the woman will become.
Remember - you don't have to be "Mr. Smooth" to make this work. Escalating kino is a process. It's about gradual escalation towards being intimate with a woman, so don't be afraid to trip up or take a chance every once in a while.
Of all the tools a man has at his disposal, kino is by far one of the most powerful. Just remember, all you need to do is slowly ease from light touching, to heavy kino to escalate the intimacy.
Turn hugs into cuddles, cuddles into kisses, etc.
It is amazing how much more you can communicate with just one touch, than you can in hours of talking. And before you know it, you'll begin to see her emotions towards you change, all because you knew how to touch her the right way!
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