Do you often find yourself feeling frustrated, angry and misunderstood in your marriage? These feelings may be caused by unfulfilled emotional needs. These unmet needs can cause all kind of negative emotions such as feelings of unworthiness, resentment, and anger.
One of the most important things you can do for your marriage is to help your husband give you the affection you need. First you need to determine what you need from him. What makes you feel valued and loved? Compliments? Help around the house? Maybe you just need him to talk to you and ask you about your day.
Next you need to let him know what you want from him. This may seem obvious, but many women do not do this because it feels uncomfortable or they feel like they are being immature to request these things.
One easy way to get the message across is to express your gratitude when he does something that makes you feel good. For example if he walks up to you and gives you a hug and it makes you feel loved- you might say, “Thanks, it feels good to me when you give me a hug.” or if it makes you feel cared for when he keeps your car filled with gas-say, “I appreciate you keeping my car filled with gas-it makes me feel like you really care about me.”
Another way to let him know what you need is by working it into your conversation at opportune times. For instance, you might observe a woman being mean to her husband and you could jokingly say, “I’ll bet she would be a lot sweeter if, he would have just given her a hug and some compliments this morning.”
You may also want to have a conversation and let him know what you need. Hint: he will be much more apt to hear what you are is saying if his needs have been met.
Do your husband a favor and help him meet your emotional needs. It will help you be a better wife, you will be more willing to meet his needs, and he will be more confident as a husband- it’s a win-win scenario.
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