Finding A Date In A Coffee Shop

Stopping at a coffee shop has become a staple of human behavior, almost as much as going to a grocery store has. Understandably - these place are everywhere and people have developed an understanding of the different coffee drinks, thanks to a cultural shift over the past 15 or so years. We now appreciate good coffee and it's no wonder these places are so crowded. So I'm guessing you spend at least a small portion of the day at a coffee shop. And you also probably wonder if it's a good place to meet women. The answer is yes! It is! And you can also, with some practice, to meet them outside of the coffee shop after the initial meeting. Here are some tips on how to do that.

#1. If she is having trouble deciding what to order from the menu and turns to apologize, always be gracious. She is probably feeling very embarrassed. If she is truly sorry you can offer to help her decide what to order. Sentences like "I come here all the time, what were you thinking of ordering? I can tell you if it's good or not," are good openers. This can work in the opposite situation. If you can't make up your mind, you can ask the woman behind you what kind of coffee drinks she likes and then you have the bonus option of buying her coffee "to make up for taking so long to decide."

#2. If she is alone and reading or writing in a journal, approach with caution. People like to do these things without being interrupted, even if they are in the middle of a busy and noisy coffee shop. This rule can be voided if there aren't any empty tables to claim for yourself. If she looks up from her book a lot, a good way to meet her is to ask what she is reading and what she thinks of it. Be honest when she asks if you have read it or have read other books like it. Lying about what you read will come back and bite you later.

#3. When you are standing next to a woman at the sugar stand, you can ask her to pass you something-you can easily play it off as being polite-you didn't want to get in her way. Politeness goes a long way with women. The same is true for if she is reaching for something closer to your side of the stand. Grab it for her with a simple "here you go." And the conversation can go from there.

#4. If you are feeling bold, you can always sit down next to her table and if she is having a conversation with someone, you can interject your own opinion and then join in the conversation. This is something with which you should be cautious. Not all groups of people are going to want to open up their conversation to the person at the next table, and if she is with a group of women, you need to be extra careful.

#5. If you are walking toward the trash can or the bussing station with your coffee cup, walk past her table and offer to take her empty coffee cup up with yours. Then, when you go back by her table, you can pause for a chat.

#6. If you set your eyes on a barista who works at the coffee shop, always make sure to compliment her on the coffee, even if she only poured it from a carafe. Believe me, this, and a quick thank you, will take you far. And if you are shy, you can make a note of going in while she's working. Eventually she'll be comfortable enough with you to hold conversations. Tread with caution; it's easy to come across as a creepy stalker if you aren't smooth about things.

Coffee shops can be intimidating, but they can also be a gold mine of opportunity if you are creative and brave. It's possible to meet women there and can be quite enjoyable. Just be willing to initiate the conversation, and put in some practice. Eventually you'll get it down.