The Art Of Kino - How To Touch A Woman

A crucial skill in any social interaction is knowing the proper way to touch - or kino - a woman as a part of the act of seduction.

We all want to be touched from the moment we emerge from the womb. When a baby comes into the world, the only thing that quiets him is when he is handed over to his mother and he gets his first taste of being held.

What are your attitudes and boundaries in regards to kino? How much physical contact do you get from the people who are close to you? To really understand kino and what it means to others, you must know what it means to you.

All too often, men feel uncomfortable touching others. There's some taboo associated with being "too physical" with other people, and many guys are hesitant to do so.

But learning to be more comfortable with physical interaction is key to succeeding, because it is through this interaction that we are able to kindle the notion of intimacy between two people.

Start to pay attention to how you touch people you're comfortable with - your friends and family. Grab someone's arm gently when you want to make an important statement. If someone is sad, or tired, or stressed, rub their upper back in light circles and give their shoulder a squeeze.

Deep down, everyone is starving for real human contact, and you will rarely - if ever - have someone ask you to stop touching them as long as you have built up a certain level of rapport and comfort with them.

Once you get comfortable with your tactile communication, you will want to start initiating touching with the women you are attracted to.

When meeting a girl for the first time, start up the kino as soon as possible. Make a few jokes, charm her with your irresistible wit, and touch her upper arm gently.

Most of all: PAY ATTENTION to how she responds!

If you are getting green lights - like her smiling, touching you back, playing with her hair, tilting her head - then escalate the kino SLOWLY by removing your hand, waiting for another high point in the conversation and then touch her at the waist.

If you are getting red lights - like she gives the "what do you think you're doing?" look, backs away, or breaks eye contact - then back off and take it easy for a while. Even if her backing off upsets you, don't let her know it! Be cool, and show her that you aren't trying to move too fast.

Go from light touches on the hands and wrists, to holding hands. Put your hand on her knee when she's sitting next to you. High-five her when she says something fun or interesting. Give her a hug. Brush her hair out of her face with your hand. Rub her shoulders.

The more you touch, the stronger your bond with the woman will become.

Remember - you don't have to be "Mr. Smooth" to make this work. Escalating kino is a process. It's about gradual escalation towards being intimate with a woman, so don't be afraid to trip up or take a chance every once in a while.

Of all the tools a man has at his disposal, kino is by far one of the most powerful. Just remember, all you need to do is slowly ease from light touching, to heavy kino to escalate the intimacy.

Turn hugs into cuddles, cuddles into kisses, etc.

It is amazing how much more you can communicate with just one touch, than you can in hours of talking. And before you know it, you'll begin to see her emotions towards you change, all because you knew how to touch her the right way!