2012年10月3日星期三

The Trick To Approaching Women

Are you one of those guys who thinks the only place to approach women is in a bar? Most men are that way.

This is not true by any stretch of the imagination.

Most of my personal success with women, and most of the success of my readers, happen in more "normal" places like coffee shops, bookstores, schools, parties, and even online.

The fact of the matter is - you can approach women ANYWHERE. And more importantly, you can do it successfully.

But guys tend to get confused about the more "normal" venues, like the supermarket, bookstore, or coffee shop. After all, these are places where guys can't rely on the staple "Can I buy you a drink?" line most often seen in bars and clubs.

I think that most guys have a fear of approaching women because they don't really know what to say, or where to take the conversation. I know that was a big one for me when I first wanted to learn about increasing my success with the ladies.

But here's what I learned: YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A "CONVERSATION" AT ALL WHEN YOU FIRST MEET A WOMAN!

Seriously. Lots of guys think they have to immediately sweep a woman off her feet the second they start talking to her. But that's wrong.

Wrong, wrong, wrong!

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS GET HER PHONE NUMBER!

Now, there's a lot more to success with women than just getting her number. But at the bare minimum, all you really need to worry about when you first meet a woman is getting her contact information!

That's it!

It's actually rather fast and simple too! If you know what you are doing, a few minutes tops. Several friends and students of mine have gone out with me and have witnessed it - 5 numbers in an evening, almost effortlessly, and the conversation didn't last but a few moments it seemed. Talk about a perspective shift on their parts!

Long conversations are not a pre-requisite for getting a phone number or future date.

So the real question is - How do you get a girl to give you her number so quickly?

It's actually easier than you think.

1) Know exactly how you want the conversation to go.

2) Know HOW to ask.

3) Know WHEN to ask.

4) Have pen and paper on you.

They key here is to engage the woman quickly, in a fun and outgoing manner, and then before you break off to go on with your day, ask her this magic line:

"Hey, do you have email?"

No matter what she says, treat her answer as an agreement to give it to you, then take a pen out of your pocket and hand it to her to write down her email. As she's writing say, "and write your name and number there too..."

Boom. You got the digits! Easy as pie, right?

The key is that you have to act LIKE THIS IS THE MOST NATURAL THING IN THE WORLD.

I've personally gotten HUNDREDS of emails and phone numbers (from women I've just met) with this technique.

The crux of this is to continuously REHEARSE how you will behave when it's time to for this. Practice makes perfect, and by doing this it will seem to just be a part of who you are and effortlessly smooth.

Once you get this down, you'll have mastered a technique that will help you meet women anywhere you might find yourself!

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