Even If You Are Ugly, You Can Attract Women

It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.

Their insecurity comes from their various aspects and natures, such as some of them think they may be too:

Some guys think they're too old.

Some think they're too fat.

Some think they're too short.

Some think they're too ugly.

Many men feel hopeless when it comes to attracting the woman they desire, because of such feelings.

But lucky for all of us - this simply isn't the case.

We should take just a moment to drive out these few myths of attraction, since they do hold many men back from having a successful love life.

Myth #1 - You have to be good looking to get women.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

As a general rule of thumb, I like to say: It's important to look good, but it's not important to be good looking!

How is there a difference?

Well, you can't help if you're good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

All these appearance factors contribute to "looking good."

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 - Women Think Like Men Do

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

For instance - If you've ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

You can see it plainly, while others may not notice it at all.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You're able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

This is incorrect.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That's not to say they don't care if a man is attractive or not. But they don't place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They're attracted to men who make them laugh. They're attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 - Women Notice Men's Insecurities

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren't very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they're not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.

A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and "diffuse" whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman's attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.

Keep in mind that insecurities and anxiety are completely unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Men Have It Made

That women instinctively generate towards good looking men is one of the most misleading myths out there.

Good looking guys have their own struggles with women. Sure, being physically attractive helps them initially, but in the long run, they have teh same issues other men have.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she's around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a man matches a woman's physical type, she'll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.

Do you know that a woman may not at first find a man to be physically attractive and then somehow experience thrilling fun and pleasure; she will become attracted to him in time?

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is when seduction comes into play.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.