Meeting Women In Bars At Night

Let's face it - going to a bar to meet a woman can be very intimidating!

There is so much to deal with - loud music, other men, intoxication, and the worst... the hostile attitude that some women seem to emanate!

Seriously, girls get approached so much in bars, that they are much more likely to REJECT you right up front than give you a chance like they normally would.

Don't take it personally. This is just a defense mechanism.

But that doesn't take away from the fact that this rejection is the major cause of the fear most men experience when it comes to meeting women in bars.

You're probably afraid to go start a conversation in a bar because you don't want to be rejected by women. And hey, who could blame you?

But you can't let this fear rule your life. Despite the intimidating atmosphere, it IS possible for you to meet many great women in a bar or nightclub. Once you can face this fear and start to deal with it, only then will you start making progress.

In my experience, knowing how to meet GROUPS of women can really help to increase your success in bars.

After all, women hardly EVER go to a bar by themselves! Bars are social atmospheres, so they usually go with friends. If you have the ability to approach the entire group, it is much less likely that you'll get rejected.

Starting conversations with groups of more than one woman in bars depends a great deal on your ENERGY. This makes a huge impact.

If someone walks up to you and acts completely nervous and scared, you might wonder what they are up to and even become a bit creeped out, right? Well, women are the same way! And they've dealt with it a lot more. So if that is how you approach, don't be surprised if you get shut out of the conversation.

If you act like you're having a good time, you think they look like some fun people to talk to, and you start on that note, they'll be FAR more likely to be friendly and open.

Now, I know a lot of guys who are GREAT at meeting women in bars. Some of them use rather interesting and complex techniques that range from "pick up lines" all the way to magic and psychic readings.

But you don't need to do anything that complicated. Instead, give this tactic a try...

Pick up your drink, walk over to the table, think of the funniest moment of your life so you have a smile on your face and say, "What, are you girls shy or something?"

When they say, "NO, why?"

Answer, "Because I've been sitting at the next table for at least a half hour and you haven't come over to say hi to me!"

I have about 3 different friends who all use variations of this opening, and it always works great (if you're having fun when you say it).

Like I said earlier, it's all about the attitude to you present to them. If you have fun, it'll be fun. If it's work, then you are probably going to become fearful again.

This fear is what needs to be addressed. If you can get by that, and subsequently the worry of what a girl thinks of you, you'll be setting yourself up for a lot more success.