The Body Language Of Flirting, Part 7

In the last article, I showed you how your facial expressions play a major part in flirting. In this article I'll show you how touching plays a part, and how it can skyrocket your success!

At one point, I think everyone has felt the exhilarating positive touch of a person of the opposite gender. She stares into your eyes, calmly placing a hand on your arm.

And the best part of it is - this type of touching can have a dramatic effect on women too!

Touching is a much evolved form of communication that has a surprising range of signals it can communicate - greeting, camaraderie, affection and agreement are just a few of the things that are communicated. The one we want to focus on, however, is attraction!

The first rule when it comes to touching is this: caution. A touch at the right time can be overwhelmingly powerful. At the wrong time it'll ruin your chance with the woman right out the gate.

After making your approach and beginning the conversation with the person of interest, a great way to touch is on the arm. The key is timing - it has to be done at the right time or you'll definitely get a "rejection notice' - she'll recoil, or show signs of anxiety.

So what is the right time? The key is having good rapport. If she's mirroring you, or you are heavily engaged in other flirtatious behavior, it's usually okay to do it. If you aren't sure, take the time to watch for more interest.

A simple touch on the arm will tell you how well you are doing with the girl. If she does show some anxiety, it generally means things are over. It's make or break, but better that than wasting your time.

If she responds positively, then it is a GREAT sign that you are on the right track.

So what do you do next? Allow the other parts of flirting to escalate - your gesture, eye movements, and keep smiling. After that, REPEAT the hand touch.

This is important. It acts as a guide - is the interest still high? And you'll send an unconscious signal to her - it is akin to saying "are you sure?"

If she responds well, you can move on. And it's doubtful that she'll respond in the negative. It might just be not as positive as it was earlier - if that happens, tone things down again and try again later.

If it's positive again, you can amp it up to something far more powerful... touching her hand. It's far more powerful than a touch on the arm. If THIS action is positive... then it is safe to assume that you are doing VERY well. If not, then back off, tone things down.

If she was positive to the arm touches, and not the hand touch, then generally you escalated too fast. The key too making sure that doesn't happen is with emotional/physical tension and arousal.

Build it with other ways of flirting, like you were earlier. You can also physically brush against her with her body. If she's doing that to you herself, it's another great sign.

If she responds well to a hand touch, gauge from there. Moving closer is probably okay. And as before, REPEAT the touch. After that, you have been given enough signals to know that you are heading in the right direction with your flirting.

In a nutshell, if it happens... she's probably yours!

Practice this! It's a major key to your success when it comes to women, particularly in the flirting stage.

In the final article on non verbal flirting, I'll show you how vocal signals have an enormous effect on how we effect people, and how we can use this to great success!