2012年9月12日星期三

How to Say I Love You is Harder Than You Think

Much has been discovered about the art of communication but there are a few things I would like to teach you about how to say I love you.

Most people love being told they are loved but it may surprise you that within how to say I love you, what you say means less than how you say it.

Research has identified the following percentages that you must know for how to say I love you:

7% of communication are the specific words you use, 38% is your tone and intonation, and a major 55% is given to your body language.

WOW! Can you now see that simply saying, “I love you”, even to someone who perceives via auditory means, can only be a small part of how to say I love you?

These next few points on how to say I love you will help you with the next time you express your love.

Present with an open persona to show you are receptive by making sure your legs and arms uncrossed and your palms are facing your love.

How to say I love you needs the following as well.

If your eyes are not showing your intention and looking around the room you are showing you’re not in love. Look gently and softly into their eyes as you tell them.

If your facial expression is expressing anything but a soft easy smile, it will convey a negative reaction to your partner.

Your tone of voice must be easy and relaxed, which shows warmth and comfort.

If your partner enjoys being touched, keep a comforting hand upon them as you speak your love and they will know it.

To really know how to say I love you keep the following in mind.

Keep your partner’s need for personal space present during communication, most people need it while some enjoy being close.

Another thing to know is that listening to your partner is just as or more important than what you want to say to them.

There is a technique called Active Listening where you repeat back to your partner what they just said to you. What this technique can do is to help you stay focused on what is being said instead of formulating a response in your head too soon. This can be difficult for the receiver at first so it is best to explain what you are doing.

Use all these ways to develop your knowledge of how to say I love you and watch your relationships flourish.

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