Speed Dating Done Right

Have you tried, or considered, Speed Dating, or any of the other versions out there? You might think the whole thing is ridiculous, but believe it or not, it's a lot of fun. I had thoughts of the scene in 40 Year Old Virgin in my head, but truth be told, it was nothing like that. Lucky for you, I have some tips that will help you in your endeavors.

First things first, let's talk about what you do BEFORE you go. I think it goes without saying that hygiene is the first thing you should take care of. This will be scrutinized even more than in a normal situation, so take care of this.

Clean yourself up, trim your nails neat, clip that nose hair. But once it is done, when you are ready to walk out that door, be DONE with it, save for a pack of mints for the dating itself.

The same thing goes for your clothing. Clean obviously, but dress to impress. I wouldn't go too showy, just make yourself look good. Polish your shoes, hit the jacket with the lint brush, and take care of any details.

Another thing to do is practice before you go. Not just some lines, or routines, but spontaneity. How does one practice that? By saying what immediately comes to mind when having a conversation. That sounds crazy, I know, but practice with a friend. The result is that you sound more genuine. Put in a bit of time with this, it'll help.

I tried something new lately - using the first date to warm up. Luckily, she wasn't beautiful, and it allowed me to make as many mistakes as necessary to get in a groove. The rest of the evening got much easier. I also found it was great, because I tried it when I was out of town, and it allowed me to get a feel for the women in a new area. I went to an 8 Minute Dating in Edmonton while out on business, and landed a really easy date with a beautiful woman.

Focus on bringing positive energy from your end. Amp it up, and if you are having fun, people will catch on to this and have fun themselves. They'll remember you, and your odds will be upped dramatically of landing the next date.

When you do that, you'll also be able to take advantage of the other guy's mistakes. Trust me, they'll make a lot. The biggest is being uptight and nervous. If you can avoid that, you'll look like a million bucks after they've dealt with some nervous, twitchy, uncomfortable guy. It helps when you smile while doing this, and relax. You'll allow them to do the same, and fun will happen!

During the conversation, you'll do far better if you show genuine interest in them, but as well, be ready to carry the conversation when they ask you a question. A good conversation should be back and forth, and neither side should feel drilled.

Also, make sure not to drink too much. This will blow your chances faster than anything. If they wanted a drunk guy, they'd hit a slum bar and do just fine. Don't be that guy.

When it's time to "close", just make the next date easy. If you are enjoying yourself, and so is she, just let her know when the clock runs down. Tell her you enjoyed yourself and would love to continue this conversation. If you are paying attention, and you know she's having fun, you should get that next date easily.

Remember, the whole thing is about making a great impression in the small amount of time that you have. Work with what I've given you above, and you should see some great success when it comes to speed dating.